Life As I See It… Episode 1

Don’t waste your time fighting hard when you know the battle ain’t yours but the Lords’…

At a time when it looks all but chaotic, a time when all hope seems lost, and when all you can see are but shadows in the dark…do not despair for there is none else besides Him.

I am the Nigerian dream, though torn between two worlds, I know the value and strong-will I possess. I know that the gold in me is greater than the oil in this great nation.
I am the future of this great country and the future is now…

It’s 22:49 and it’s a friday night. Yes, a friday night indeed. And as I put my head down to rest I begin to reminisce…it all comes down to a single moment. That moment when I choose to remain at home,
to sit still and think about what life has to offer and what lies in store for me. That moment when I decide to become the best I can be, that moment when i finally realise that in order to reach my potential
i would have to strive and put in all I’ve got. That moment i choose not to fall back anymore on a natural high when i face difficult challenges. That moment when in the midst of conflict I choose to lean on Him
and watch Him fight my battles.

I am Arinze and i have a little story to tell.

Life as we see it may seem rather complex but indeed it really isn’t as we assume. It really is simple as I have learnt over the years.
I am in my last year of formal education in one of the most respected higher instituitions in the country. I have come to realise that it is not about how we fight or the battles we choose to fight.
I am not addicted to drugs but i have seen it all. I do not have a kid or children because i chose to lean on my cravings for her. I do not have excellent results and that equally is not because I am not intelligent.
I have been in and out of relationships, both with God and women. I am not an alchoholic but in my best mood, tipsy is my ideal word. I am not affiliated with any confraternity. And yes, i am just a little over twenty.

Having grown up in a home where in my honest opinion, conversations were lacking, my best friend was my mind. Yes, that thing on the inside which i can yet describe…perhaps a genie that can be stretched.
A mind limited to its own imaginations and swimming in ignorance. A mind with the capacity to do so great a thing, from as little as setting my pants on fire to as great as single handedly enriching uranium without the
use of certain things and developing the worlds first of everything. A virgin mind…oooops…i stand to be corrected. A mind as filthy as can be and perhaps to be compared with…

Cancer

Hey there!

Guess you’re doing great.

Thought it’ll be great to share this little piece with y’all as I just lost a relative to this dreadful illness called cancer( of the pancreas).
Hope you find it useful….

 

 

Cancer is the uncontrolled growth of abnormal cells in the body. Cancerous cells are also called malignant cells.

Causes, incidence, and risk factors

Cells are the building blocks of living things.

Cancer grows out of normal cells in the body. Normal cells multiply when the body needs them, and die when the body doesn’t need them. Cancer appears to occur when the growth of cells in the body is out of control and cells divide too quickly. It can also occur when cells forget how to die.

There are many different kinds of cancers. Cancer can develop in almost any organ or tissue, such as the lung, colon, breast, skin, bones, or nerve tissue.

There are many causes of cancers, including:

  • Benzene and other chemicals

  • Drinking excess alcohol

  • Environmental toxins, such as certain poisonous mushrooms and a type of poison that can grow on peanut plants (aflatoxins)

  • Excessive sunlight exposure

  • Genetic problems

  • Obesity

  • Radiation

  • Viruses

However, the cause of many cancers remains unknown.

The most common cause of cancer-related death is lung cancer.

The three most common cancers in men in the United States are:

In women in the United States, the three most common cancers are:

Some cancers are more common in certain parts of the world. For example, in Japan, there are many cases of stomach cancer, but in the United States, this type of cancer is pretty rare. Differences in diet may play a role.

Some other types of cancers include:

 

Risk factors

Doctors often cannot explain why one person develops cancer and another does not. But research shows that certain risk factors increase the chance that a person will develop cancer. These are the most common risk factors for cancer:

  • Growing older
  • Tobacco
  • Sunlight
  • Ionizing radiation
  • Certain chemicals and other substances
  • Some viruses and bacteria
  • Certain hormones
  • Family history of cancer
  • Alcohol
  • Poor diet, lack of physical activity, or being overweight

Many of these risk factors can be avoided. Others, such as family history, cannot be avoided. People can help protect themselves by staying away from known risk factors whenever possible.

If you think you may be at risk for cancer, you should discuss this concern with your doctor. You may want to ask about reducing your risk and about a schedule for checkups.

Over time, several factors may act together to cause normal cells to become cancerous. When thinking about your risk of getting cancer, these are some things to keep in mind:

  • Not everything causes cancer.
  • Cancer is not caused by an injury, such as a bump or bruise.
  • Cancer is not contagious. Although being infected with certain viruses or bacteria may increase the risk of some types of cancer, no one can “catch” cancer from another person.
  • Having one or more risk factors does not mean that you will get cancer. Most people who have risk factors never develop cancer.
  • Some people are more sensitive than others to the known risk factors.

Cancer of the Pancreas.

The pancreas is an organ in the abdomen that sits in front of the spine above the level of the belly button. It performs two main functions: first, it makes insulin, a hormone that regulates blood sugar levels, and second: it makes enzymes, which help break down proteins. Enzymes help digestion by chopping proteins into smaller parts so that they can be more easily absorbed by the body and used for energy. Enzymes leave the pancreas via a system of tubes called “ducts” that connect the pancreas to the intestines. The pancreas sits deep in the belly and is in close proximity to many important structures such as the small intestine (the duodenum) and the bile ducts, as well as important blood vessels and nerves.

 

Pancreatic cancer facts

  • Most pancreatic cancers are adenocarcinomas.
  • Few patients diagnosed with pancreatic cancer have identifiablerisk factors.
  • Pancreatic cancer is highly lethal.
  • Pancreatic cancer is difficult to diagnose, and the diagnosis is often made late in the disease course. Symptoms include weight lossback pain, and jaundice.
  • The only curable treatment is surgical removal of all cancer.
  • Chemotherapy after surgery can lower the chances of the cancer returning.
  • Chemotherapy for metastatic pancreatic cancer can extend life and improve the quality of life for people with the disease.
  • Patients diagnosed with pancreatic cancer are encouraged to seek out clinical trials to improve pancreatic cancer treatment.
  • Many organizations exist to help provide information and support for patients and families fighting pancreatic cancer.

 

Remember to drop a Thought….. 

Traits of a Real Man.

 
To build a great house, you need a strong foundation upon which to assemble all the other pretty things. To build a great man, you also need a solid foundation upon which to add all the other little things that set the real men apart from the stronzos — let’s not piss around, the stuff inside matters most. Over the last few years, I’ve learned that too many men have no foundation, no basis on which to build the principles I teach. There are many ways to define a man, and different people have different definitions, so I’m going to skip all that crap and tell you the only thing you need to know: My way is the correct way and that’s it, that’s all. Capisce?

A real man reads

If you don’t agree, go read the column of some guy from ABJ who thinks owning a pickup truck is what defines a man. You’ll see how far you get with this advice.

Trait No. 1: A real man is strong

A real man doesn’t cry, doesn’t moan, doesn’t complain, doesn’t get sick, and doesn’t need to go to the doctor every time he sneezes. A real man makes decisions and lives with the consequences. A real man accepts responsibility for his actions and his words. A real man is firm. If life is a b*tch, a real man will slap it and move on. A real man is macho; a real man is tough; a real man doesn’t show emotions. A real man is the backbone of his family and doesn’t have time to be weak. If spiders scare you, you’ll never be a real man.

Trait No. 2: A real man is focused

A real man knows the difference between what’s important and what isn’t. A real man doesn’t waste time on stupidities that don’t bring him any profit. Sure, there are things you can do as a hobby but it must have a purpose. A real man focuses on power, money and family. He doesn’t focus on sex. Sex comes as a result of having power, money and a wife (and if she doesn’t satisfy you, there are plenty of other women who will, especially when you are powerful and rich).

Trait No. 3: A real man knows the importance of family

A real man will keep his family strong and pass on his ancestors’ history and traditions. A real man knows that his children are God’s gift and should be treated as such, even if he disciplines them from time to time.

Trait No. 4: A real man doesn’t gossip

A real man follows omerta; he keeps his mouth shut. He shelters information and rations his words. A real man does not reveal more than he has to and doesn’t engage in girlie talk about others. A real man doesn’t discuss things he doesn’t know about or people he has never met.

Trait No. 5: A real man’s word is his bond

When a real man makes a promise, he keeps it. If he can’t keep a promise, he doesn’t give his word. A real man would rather die than break his word. A real man knows that his words are as powerful as his actions, and that they must be taken at face value. That is why he rations them (see above).

Trait No. 6: A real man strives to be a role model

A real man respects himself and others at all times, unless, of course, he has been disrespected. A real man sets an example for his disciples, and especially for his children. I never bring my work home, so my children only know me as their father and not as a waste management executive. You should do the same; a real man sets the tone for his children and keeps them from discovering that he has weaknesses.

Trait No. 7: A real man makes his own fortune

A real man doesn’t settle for handouts or charity when it comes to his personal fortune. A real man isn’t satisfied with papa’s money. He spits on Lady Luck and decides his own destiny. A real man who inherits goods from his forefathers takes his inheritance and turns it into 10 times what it was.

Trait No. 8: A real man doesn’t look like a woman

A real man doesn’t have piercings and long hair, and he doesn’t shave his chest. Manicures, however, are acceptable. Massages from female attendants are also tolerated. A real man knows that, outside of his barber, all his personal hygiene needs must be taken care of by a woman.

 

A real man has at least three suits (with a mandatory pinstriped one) that cost more than a roomful of escorts. A real man wears a suit at least three times a week. Any man who doesn’t know how to tie a tie should hand in his testicoli immediately.

 

Trait No. 9: A real man keeps his house in order

Have you ever been inside the boss’ house? There ain’t no pizza boxes sitting around, there ain’t no undershirts on the floor, and there sure as hell ain’t no unpaid bills being used as beer coasters. No ruler can rule over a territory if he isn’t already the master of his own home. This means you lazy pinheads out there need to stop using machismo as an excuse to live like a bottom-feeder; keep your sty spotless, keep your documents in order and — listen up on this one — clean your freaking suits.

Trait No. 10: A real man can defend himself

You know what’s missing in the world today? Leaders who have had to fight their way to the top. No joking, look at the head of any business that’s circling the toilet bowl, and I’ll show you a boss whose parents’ power and money kept him from ever learning things the hard way. Every successful capo has been on the wrong end of a beatdown — be it with words or be it with a set of A. Testonis. But those future capos got up again and again, until they knew how to stand their ground — and that, my students, is when you can start to climb the ladder.

Lesson over

So what have you learned here today, class? You learned that you have a lot of homework to do before you can call yourself a real man. A real man is the essence of manhood because, by definition, he has achieved the pinnacle of his role. You see? That was me trying to be a smart-ass. Here’s a bonus trait: A real man keeps it simple. If you know big words, use them rarely and appropriately, at least in front of morons who think they’re smarter than you. Remember, the stuff inside matters most. Lesson over!!

 

Watch your backs and keep your noses clean.

Words

Hmmmmm….

Feels rather great to finally express my thoughts on the potency of words without being “shu-shu-ed”(shoo-shooed)….lmao

The notion that we are entirely responsible for how we decide to interpret words thrown at us in daily conversations at work, home, church et all or in different relationships is rather inadequate! I mean, why would you give me a harsh reply to an innocent statement just because you’re having a bad day or because you haven’t learnt to handle your personal issues properly (are you the only one with money issues??) or why would an “ex”- girlfriend expect her relationship with her “ex”-partner continue to thrive after looking him in the eyes and telling him they’re only dating because they had sex and also going the extra mile to let the whole world know they have a misunderstanding (which she caused oh…SMH) by posting a rather lurid statement on facebook….”I have done it again, why do I always pick the wrong ones”….(you didn’t figure he’d be like the “rest” you’ve had till you were nine months into the relationship? Give me a break please…..seriously!

Let’s take a close look at these scenarios…

Scenario A (This conversation ensues about 2 months after telling her bf they’ve been dating just cos they had sex and after long talks between both of them about how she does not value him)

“Hey switz…..howz you doing? Hope your day’s been great. I’ll be on the Island tomorrow morning, think we should hook up. Is 11am cool?”

“bubbles, its cool…would I miss hanging out with you any day?? I’ll just go chill in my sisters office(in Lekki) so I’ll meet you at The Palms when you get to the Island.”

It’s 11:22am…he hasn’t heard from “his” girl and calls her up….

“Switz….wassup, where you at?? Ain’t heard from you….”

“oooops…i’m in Johns’ place”

“seriously? thot we were to hook up? you shoulda at least called to say you were “tied up” instead of letting me just laze around here!” He obviously ends the call rather pissed off…and she finally calls around 2pm to ask if he was still available…

During the course of the week he calls and tries to chat her up and she casually says she doesn’t have any thing to talk about. He stops calling having felt he’d taken enough (can’t begin to gist y’all what this dude has seen…lol). Over the weekend she calls and wants to chat him up but he’s busy trying to figure out his life, brings up what ensued during the week and she authoritatively tells him to shut up! After a couple of hot discussions, she uploads on facebook…

“I have done it again, why do I always pick the wrong ones?”

The guy laughs and calls her up…”so I’m now being compared with rest init?

“biko….fimile! you never seem to accept my flaws”

So leaving your bf waiting and chilling with another guy is now a flaw….please enlighten me!

“Is that so?…your flaws right? ok…” ends call.

He stops calling her and she calls like once a week to…in her own words…”check you up”

After like two months of that “rubbish”…lmao….she calls to ask what’s up with her relationship…rotflmao

“Hey…wassup? You don’t call anymore, no messages….nothing. What’s up with us??

“Hmmmm…seriously? Can’t talk now, let’s talk later…I’m at work”

Its been over a week and he still hasn’t called or sent a message….she calls but he doesn’t pick or return the call…

I still dey watch jooooor….lol

But seriously…here are my thoughts:

She’s already said and done lots of stuff. There are things that one can live with…I assume…but words, words are absolutely different. When they come out in the wrong way, they pierce one’s soul…(jeez…gruesome: causing great horror; horribly repugnant)…they change a lot(take it from me, they change a lot)…even God doesn’t play with His.

I’ll continue some other day but before I leave…

Drop a Thought on Words…..

Cheers!